Monday, September 26, 2011
Yet Another Blog About ... Spanking!
It seems like there is a new blog about spanking every day. Maybe several new spanking blogs every day. I never thought I'd have one, but it seems that I might have something interesting to say. I am in a brand-new relationship, and it is the first time I have seriously tried to inject a little spanking into the coule dynamic. I hesitated to bring up the subject so early, but then again, I didn't want to be a year into it before I mentioned my spanking desires.
I don't want to pretend to do "domestic discipline". I like the discipline aspect of spanking, but I am almost exclusively interested in spanking. I don't want to be grounded or made to write lines. I want to live out dominance and submission physically as a means of communication between two partners. This is about US. Not about ME.
After only about 4 or 5 dates and one sort of intimate encounter, I told him about the thrill that I get from being spanked. Mostly it was the idea of being spanked, as I only had limited real-life experience. So far I have had about 10 spankings - most with his hand and my wooden hairbrush. They are all good but mostly too light. He seems to hesitate when I protest verbally, even just a little "oohhh". We will get past this eventually. I am definitely thinking long-term here! He is a smart guy, and willing to try almost anything I like, so I think we will get it right eventually.
I'd be glad to hear from others who have been down this road before. Did you let your partner know about your interest in the first weeks of the relationship? How did that work out? Or, did you wait? How did you get him to ramp it up a bit. (I've already told him that he is at about 60% of where I think we will eventually be.)
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Hi Jenny, and welcome to the neighborhood!
ReplyDeleteI was very fortunate. I managed quite by chance to hook up with a guy who was just as much of a spanko as I was. Once we discovered our common interest (several weeks along), our destiny was set.
It sounds as though you and your new man are on a good path. Experimenting and learning together is a big part of the experience.
Hugs,
Bonnie
Welcome to blogging, Jenny.
ReplyDeleteI was fortunate to find a man who was eager to share my desire for spanking. As for ramping up the intensity, telling him what you like, and what you want more of, is a good way to start. He'll become more comfortable with the idea as time goes by.
Hugs,
Hermione
Jenny,
ReplyDeleteIf you want the guy to spank you, you must also please him in some way. He is giving you pleasure, so he will need to in return. You need to work on what gives him pleasure and try to meet his needs, just as you want him to meet your (spanking) needs. Best of luck!