Figuring It All Out

Well, over the past few weeks, we've had a few spankings. Which is to say, I have had a few spankings. One week I forgot to take my daily medicine before noon on Sunday, which meant that I had to have a little spanking that night. Then, on Tuesday, I forgot to take the medicine before going to work. That meant that it was 5 pm before I could take it. Missing the medicine twice within a week generally means a disobedience spanking, too. We were busy that week, so I didn't get that spanking until a few days later. Before we were together for that spanking (we live in towns that are 30 minutes apart), I sent him some guidelines that I adapted from some posts I had read online. Our spankings had taken on too much of a purely "foreplay" atmosphere, which is ok, but not quite enough for me. He was usually half-dressed, and he often suggested a spanking after some erotic kissing. Here's what I sent him:

I think we need to fine-tune our spanking practice in order to increase the emotional affect on me. These ideas come from some things I read online.  First, you should be dressed. Second, I should be mostly dressed, with only the "key area" exposed. Third, we should try "corner time". I'm not sure how that will feel as I've never done it, but I think being told to "go stand in the corner until I tell you to come back" might be pretty powerful. Maybe the whole scene could start with me going to the bedroom alone to wait, too. Fourth, as we are starting, you should ask me, "Do you know why you are being spanked?" (Of course, the answer is more than a simple "yes".) Then, "Is there any reason you know of why I should not spank you?" (Man, that is a tough one to hear!!) Having to answer' "No".... and then, "Well, then, let's get started. Stay still ...."  Gosh.... What do you think of these ideas? (It's all up for discussion. This is not just about me.)

It is nice to be able to email this sort of thing to him. If I said these things, I would have a hard time being so direct. Instead, I wrote up this email, took a deep breath, and hit 'Send'. It was out of my hand after pressing that button. He agreed to try to do these things, but admitted he may forget one or two, especcially at first. We had only that one spanking since I sent that email. It was a bit more like I wanted it. I had just given him a round leather paddle with a steel reinforcing bar embedded within. He used that, and let me tell you, it hurt!! I had tried it out with three smacks when I received it and I immediately had second thoughts about giving it to him! The spanking wasn't really that bad and was actually quite exciting. We are now at the beach for a Columbus Day vacation. He brought the paddle and joked about using it, but so far he hasn't. I've not messed up in any way which would earn me a spanking, but he hasn't even suggested that we do our weekly 'practice'. I am a little disappointed, but I am not going to ask or otherwise remind him. He knows he has the paddle, he knows I sort of want it, and it is up to him to decide when and where to use it. He may be concerned about thin walls in the hotel, but I say, "Damn the other guests, full speed ahead!" Oh well, I'll let you know if I get lucky before we leave in a few hours.

Yet Another Blog About ... Spanking!

It seems like there is a new blog about spanking every day. Maybe several new spanking blogs every day. I never thought I'd have one, but it seems that I might have something interesting to say. I am in a brand-new relationship, and it is the first time I have seriously tried to inject a little spanking into the coule dynamic. I hesitated to bring up the subject so early, but then again, I didn't want to be a year into it before I mentioned my spanking desires. I don't want to pretend to do "domestic discipline". I like the discipline aspect of spanking, but I am almost exclusively interested in spanking. I don't want to be grounded or made to write lines. I want to live out dominance and submission physically as a means of communication between two partners. This is about US. Not about ME. After only about 4 or 5 dates and one sort of intimate encounter, I told him about the thrill that I get from being spanked. Mostly it was the idea of being spanked, as I only had limited real-life experience. So far I have had about 10 spankings - most with his hand and my wooden hairbrush. They are all good but mostly too light. He seems to hesitate when I protest verbally, even just a little "oohhh". We will get past this eventually. I am definitely thinking long-term here! He is a smart guy, and willing to try almost anything I like, so I think we will get it right eventually. I'd be glad to hear from others who have been down this road before. Did you let your partner know about your interest in the first weeks of the relationship? How did that work out? Or, did you wait? How did you get him to ramp it up a bit. (I've already told him that he is at about 60% of where I think we will eventually be.)