Monday, October 22, 2012

Great...hard...hurt

Well, in a word, it was "great"!! It was also "hard" and it "hurt". Ok, enough of that silliness. He started out with a  hand warm-up, and then pulled out the wooden paddle. I've had it before, but he never really swung it hard enough. This time he started out hard. From the first spank I was hurting. At the end of the first set (about 30??), he gave me one that made me really cry out in pain and lift my left leg. He stopped for a bit of rubbing and then started up again. I was a little disappointed that he spanked more softly for this second set. Then he stopped, rubbed, and asked if that was enough. I told him to do a few more, but harder and faster. This last set of about ten or so were about as hard as that first set and just a little bit faster. None caused a reaction like that last spank in the first set.

He didn't lecture, which I would have liked. But it was nice. I thanked him afterwards.

It's too bad the effect is so temporary. We played in bed a while. I told him that spanking doesn't have to lead to sex, but then I mentioned the spanking - oral sex connection. He liked that idea a lot! I felt my warm buns once or twice, but other than that the effect was fleeting. By the evening, there were no lingering effects at all.

The good news is that he's getting better!

Sunday, October 21, 2012

I'm Going to be Spanked Today

Lately I've been asking for more spankings, and he has agreed to do more. I have also requested that at least at times, the spanking is "for a reason". Otherwise, for me, it is just so much ass slapping.

Last night, M and I were talking in bed about our plans for today. I mentioned that he might want to spank me. I was thinking it would be a "reminder" or "practice" spanking. I prefer those words to "maintenance". I like to think that these sort-of-weekly spankings are to remind me that I can be spanked if I get out of line and try to take control of the relationship. These routine spankings for him to practice how to spank me and for me to learn how to take a spanking with grace and dignity.

When I suggested a spanking, he said, "Yes, you were very sassy in the kitchen tonight." How exciting! He wanted to spank me for being sassy!! Let me tell you what happened...

Yesterday, M was helping me cook a chicken stew. He is just learning to cook, so he has some silly ways of doing things, like peeling an onion. He tries to take off each paper-thin peeling, one at at time. As a teen, my mother taught me to remove the skin by cutting almost all the way across the top and bottom of the onion and ripping off a section. Then, take off one good layer and all of the peelings at once. When I noticed what he was doing, I made some disparaging remarks and grabbed the knife from him and tried to apply my method, also known as "the right way". He went along and didn't say anything at the time. But he must have been stewing over it all night (no pun intended!).

So, I'm excited that I will get a spanking this afternoon for being disrespectful. It would have been ok to be spanked for this anytime last night. If he had said something at the time, he could have spanked me while the stew was simmering. But it's ok to wait a little while, too. I've been thinking about it this morning, and I like the idea that he is going to try to take me in hand and give me a good cane and wooden paddle spanking for my actions. Eventually, I'd like him to spank hard enough that I start to cry. (Hasn't happened yet, but we are getting there.) As I mentioned above, I have a tendency to sort of take over. For him to remain somewhat in charge, he will have to spank me fairly often, perhaps about once a week. I can tell that he doesn't really like it, but he does it for me and for the relationship.

To be honest, though, it's all just an illusion - I am still in charge. ;)