Monday, September 26, 2011

Yet Another Blog About ... Spanking!

It seems like there is a new blog about spanking every day. Maybe several new spanking blogs every day. I never thought I'd have one, but it seems that I might have something interesting to say. I am in a brand-new relationship, and it is the first time I have seriously tried to inject a little spanking into the coule dynamic. I hesitated to bring up the subject so early, but then again, I didn't want to be a year into it before I mentioned my spanking desires. I don't want to pretend to do "domestic discipline". I like the discipline aspect of spanking, but I am almost exclusively interested in spanking. I don't want to be grounded or made to write lines. I want to live out dominance and submission physically as a means of communication between two partners. This is about US. Not about ME. After only about 4 or 5 dates and one sort of intimate encounter, I told him about the thrill that I get from being spanked. Mostly it was the idea of being spanked, as I only had limited real-life experience. So far I have had about 10 spankings - most with his hand and my wooden hairbrush. They are all good but mostly too light. He seems to hesitate when I protest verbally, even just a little "oohhh". We will get past this eventually. I am definitely thinking long-term here! He is a smart guy, and willing to try almost anything I like, so I think we will get it right eventually. I'd be glad to hear from others who have been down this road before. Did you let your partner know about your interest in the first weeks of the relationship? How did that work out? Or, did you wait? How did you get him to ramp it up a bit. (I've already told him that he is at about 60% of where I think we will eventually be.)